Have you ever thought about something you wanted and then talked yourself out of it? Have you ever had a dream and found that little voice saying, “ah, but that’s crazy, that could never happen”?
If you are like most of us, these situations happen a whole lot more than you might realize. Most times people just don’t even notice they’re doing it because it happens so automatically.
For today’s activity I would like you to consider some of those stories that little voice in your head might be telling you that hold you back.
For example, most of you know I want to own and develop an island retreat center. Now just think about that for a minute – the first time I came up with this idea I got all sorts of internal feedback from my inner voices telling me it was a crazy idea, it would cost tons of money, who did I think I was, Richard Branson?
Your ideas or goals that float through your head may not be similar, however I’ve worked with enough people to know we all have inner chatter that speaks to us in our heads.
Today’s activity is to write down two or three of those stories you tell yourself and play a little game of true false with them. Using my inner chatter about the island, one of the thoughts I had or stories I bought into initially is that buying an island would cost a ton of money. Well, when I finally sat down and went to look at the cost of owning an island in a tropical destination I was pleasantly surprised to see some properties sprinkled among the multi-million dollar properties that were less than the cost of a single family home in many parts of the US.
This got me to questioning many of the other thoughts in my head that would just come to me that I might just be accepting as truth and allowing them to hold me back from my dreams…
I encourage you today and over the weekend to take some time to really listen to the chatter in your head. You know the little voice that thinks it knows it all and play a little True or False with the stories it tells you. I am going to be that you will find a few of them won’t hold up when looked at.
In your journal write out a few of the stories you tell yourself, they could be big or small, then ask yourself a few questions:
Do I really believe this about myself or my situation?
Can I do research that either proves or denies this story? You know – play a little true or false with this voice.
What might be possible if I just didn’t believe this and moved forward anyway?
It may take a little time for you to recognize this voice or the stories you may be telling yourself so take the weekend to complete this if you need it. I know this exercise was an eye-opener for me and it is amazing when as a life coach I present this exercise what comes up for people and what we can clear away by first acknowledging the voice is present and it’s not always right!
So take some time with that little voice in your head and write down what it says, then play a little game of true or false with it and get ready for a fresh new start.
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